Beauty In All Things

A single mom loving Jesus and surviving suburbia

Day 31 – Reflections on 31 Days

31 Big ShoesI have loved writing my single mom life for 31 days. I should do this post tomorrow, but tomorrow is halloween and I will post one last fun pic. Here are a few observations….

Observation #1: I should have called it 31 days of my toes. It is still so warm in Southern California that each pick has my toes.

Observation #2: No situation is as depressing as it seems when you have to figure out how to type it up for a blog post and try to give it meaning. To others and yourself.

Observation #3: It is hard to be totally raw and I was surprised at how easy it was to gloss over many of the tough things. I will need to go back and elaborate on some of my posts to share more accurately the raw and real.

Observation #4: I was a little crazy with the feet pictures. Most specifically at Beth Moore and the Airport. 🙂 People must have thought I was crazy.

Observation #5: We are a really, really busy family who does a lot of cool things in October.

Overall, It was so healthy for me to look at my days and see all the ways that God’s hand covers our family. There were fun days and then there were rough days. I realized that my rough days are always filled with some joy. I can choose to look at only the hard parts, but that would be dishonest. It is a lie to label my day without looking at the positive too. Both are evident. Both are worthy of acknowledgement and process. And through it all my kids and I….

 …are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes for the Lord who is the Spirit. 2 Corinthians 3:18

 

Still processing all of this,

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Day 30 – Halloween

IMG_1227Holidays are hard. Many families have two to share the load of the common place of the day and the excitement of day. Halloween for example means that I have to coordinate buying the pumpkins, overseeing the carving, cleaning up the carving roasting the seeds….you get the idea. One great thing after another that is hard to give up. Thanks to a sweet friend, I am happy to say that, Halloween is one holiday that I have finally dialed in. A few years ago she started inviting me to her Halloween party and it has changed our holiday. We gather in the afternoon and all carve our pumpkins together, in community. There are tons of parents to supervise and clean up and manage our brood. She orders pizza and the kids play. At 6 we head out and trick-o-treat all together. Again, tons of parents to manage and coral all our kids. I know they do it for fun, but it ministers to me so greatly. It meets a need for our family in a special and unique way.

Until next year,

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Day 29 – Piano

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Today is piano day. My whole life I had to take piano. I hated it, but today I can read music. I am so thankful to my parents for suffering through the tears and whining and making me continue. Now they are blessing my kids with piano lessons. We love Ms Debbie and the way she teaches and encourages.

LaLaLaLa,

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Day 28 – Walking Together

IMG_0980Today I went to my small group of single moms. We get together to encourage one another and study God’s word. It is so nice to spend this short time with women who live my experience daily. I am so blessed by their understanding and wisdom.

On the journey together,

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Day 27 – Horses

IMG_0972This picture is perfect. It’s not my feet, but the feet of Hershey the horse, my little cowgirl, and my baby who never wears shoes.

Enjoying today,

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Day 26 – Sundays Suck

IMG_0971The hardest day of the week for me is Sunday. Spoiler alert, this post is a downer. I keep trying to make Sunday better, but it is a hard day and I’m gonna be real about it. Sunday is the day when families go to church together and celebrate a family afternoon and a big dinner. Dad is home from work, mom is relaxing and organizing for the week ahead and kids are together. While I realize that not every family has a Norman Rockwell Sunday, it is especially hard for this single mom. First, it means getting all my kids up and ready in “Sunday Best” and to church ON TIME by myself. I struggle to get my kids to their sunday classes and then I sit in church by myself. I am surrounded by couples holding hands and sharing bibles. After church I quickly step out to get my kids while other women chat away and their husbands pick up the kids. After church we come home. To a quiet usually messy house showing the chaos of the morning. In Suberbia Sunday is family day and it is hard.

 

Forging ahead,

 

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Day 25 – Surprise Beach Day

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Today was a surprise day. An impromptu trip to my parents led to an impromptu drive up the coast with just my dad and my daughter. I am blessed to live an hour drive from my parents who just happen to live at the beach. Our drive ended in Malibu at a lovely restaurant on the water. It was such a treat to spend the day with my dad and my girl enjoying a gorgeous Southern California fall day.

Cherishing Special Times,

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Day 24 – Christmas

IMG_0820Yep, Christmas. Well, for today anyway. My favorite, favorite store in all the world posted an invitation to join them in decorating for the holidays. This store has amazing window displays each season and some friends and I went scissors in hand to help. Can’t wait to see the final store decor next month and know I got to help. I love finding free ways to do fun artsy stuff.

Loving Anthropologie,

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Day 23 – Pumpkin Patch

IMG_0821Family trip to the pumpkin patch. Complete with family photo. See my feet above. Family photos used to be hard for me, but now 1 adult and 3 kids is our norm. I love seeing their faces next to mine. We are family.

Loving Family,

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Day 22 – BSF

IMG_0825I can not say enough about Bible Study Fellowship. I had heard about it for years. I love that everyone doing BSF all over the world is studying the same thing. At a conference last year I met women from all over that were discussing the scripture that BSF was looking at and I wanted in. My group studies God’s word and I have gotten to know some amazing and diverse women in the process. It has also been a good discipline to get me in God’s word most days.

Loving BSF,

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